For the last few days we have had an issue in the guild and its getting right on my ass now . Im an easy going sort of guy but when you give my wife grief then I tend to get a bit pissy .
We have had two guild member with us for some weeks who were brought into the guild by two of our officers .
One never talked in guild , never asked for help and caused a few complaints about being ignorant when guildies tried speaking to them and were out and out ignored . The second member was fine and chatty and generally a good laugh to have around .
We asked the officers who invited them to have a word with the member who wasnt getting involved and see if they could get the player to at the very least say hello to people .
The answer we got was the person is just antisocial and ignore it . Well as the days went on this began to annoy us more and more . Then lo an behold they talk in /g to say they are having a problem with their addons and did any of us know what was causing it . Both me and my wife gave them a couple of things to try . They logged sayingthey needed a break as it was driving them crazy and would be back later .
Some hours later they log in and say "Time to move on , guess I'll see you all around" and quit the guild . We tried sending tells to find out what was going on and didnt get a reply so we threw it back to the officers and they got pretty much the same thing .
Next day the now ex members friend quits as well and both my wife and I got a curious mail from him .
" don't like to leave loose ends. My interpetation of what a guild is suppose to be is friendship, mutual respect and belonging to something greater than one's self. while I met some really good people I consider friends, I never felt as if I was fully part of the guild...we were never included in any guild activities and no matter how well we progressed it was never good enough to be included. with you both it seemed that if you weren't level 70 then you just didn't
warrant being noticed. Also the degrading "low level" run that was set up seemed to be more of a burden and out of convienance than anything else. the snide remarks and lack of respect displayed were also surely not qualities displayed from good leaders. The ridicule that X received from you two when she needed help on the day we left was unacceptable and realizing that even when we reached level 70 you would still not treat us as equals prompted our departure. "
This sort of knocked me sideways a fair bit as its so far out of left field as to be pretty surreal.
The fact that they never asked for help ingame from the guild and didnt try overly hard to get involved is now our fault how ?
The low level run is response to a post on our forum saying "lets go bash some low lvl dungeons for fun , deadmines - scholo" This was echoed in the Gmotd as low level runs - see forum .
How is this degrading ?
I also fail to see how "sounds like a rep addon gone wrong Id try turning those off first" can be construed as either snide or classed as ridicule .
I dont play with a crystal ball next to me so I freely admit Im not omnipotent so if your having a problem then tell us so we can fix it .
I sent him a couple of mails back asking him to clarify whats going on as we dont have a clue what he's on about .
I got one yesterday all very polite apologising for the original mails as he was "upset and angry" so ok fair do's . I ask him to email me or msn me so we can discuss the problems he had with the guild . He's going to stick with his friend and I admire him for that .
So I go about my business levelling my rogue and chatting away .
Wife gets in from work and logs in and theres a mail in her box from him which she opens expecting he's going to apologise to her as well .
No such luck she gets a venomous personal attack . I include a snippet
"you simply take and never give...and trust me when I say those aren't my words. look a little closer at the guild "
The whole mail left my wife in tears and highly upset . The guilds my wifes baby she created it and made it what it is today . Now she doesnt feel like playing and I for one am damn right pissed off .
From the mail it would appear that someone has said something to him . Whether this is true or its him trying to shake the guild up I dont know .
The guilds officers know my stance on this . If someone has told the member this pack of crap then I dont expect them to apologise Id rather they got the hell out of our guild . Preferably when Im not there as If I find out who it is and they are still in the guild I will quite happily kick the snivelling wretch out and publically humiliate them .
People can say what they want about me but if you make my wife cry youd better get the hell out of dodge .
If your reading this the commands /gquit .
And as for the originator of the mail . Dude I liked you a lot but you way overstepped your boundary on this one . My wife has reported the mail to the Gms under the abuse policies . Have fun explaining yourself .
